Thursday, June 12
Could this person bear the terrors of opening themselves up to another's love, and acknowledge, without too much fear, the depth of their need for someone else? Could they let you look after them, and, in turn, could they look after you? Could they bear to love without holding on to excessive independence? Could they temper their dread of being engulfed? Could they be part of a couple without feeling that they were dissolving as a person? Could they avoid managing fear through coldness or suspicion and anger? Could they, in short, manage the anxieties of being adored? Or, if we can put it another way: could they not hold it against you if you like them a lot?
— The School of Life, How to Work Out the Emotional Maturity of Prospective Partners
